Player Etiquette

There are some lessons men can learn that will instantly improve their chances; here are a few techniques on Player etiquette that will show her you’re a class act.
Bad habits
Chewing your nails, picking your teeth, picking your nose, smoking -- it happens all the time, and I’ve seen more guys do it involuntarily than a Player should. Displaying your bad habits when you’re picking up a woman is going to instantly kill your game; your little nuances are as glaring as the skin flakes on your shirt. Really, is that appropriate? I think not.

A Player has to be prudent about the little things he does. While on the surface it may seem harmless and subtle, to her it’s an obtrusive turnoff that’s going to net you a handshake good-bye rather than the desired fervent lip-lock. Be mindful of what your intuition wants you to do, and think about the consequences if you fall back into your bad habits. Then, think about what kind of benefits you’ll get (from her) if you suppress your otherwise instinctive (but nasty) urges. Chances are your game will move a lot smoother without the social awkwardness rather than with, so just avoid the bad habits at all costs. It’s hard to practice this form of Player etiquette, but it’s definitely worth it.
Watch your mouth
Nothing spells “dating disaster” like carpet-bombing her with the F-word and other soap-to-mouth worthy expressions. Like the bad habits previously mentioned, this common mistake may slip under the tongue without you being aware of it, but it can be as loud as a banshee to her ears. Woman like civilized guys, and since communication is key to a good relationship, you’re not doing yourself any favors spouting an arsenal of crude vulgarities.

Practice watching your mouth. After a while, you won’t even attempt to use the word anymore (you’ll find you just stop using it), making you a gentleman with better Player etiquette (and a proper vocabulary). Perseverance is paramount to success here, so keep at it and it will come.

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Be a gentleman
Good Player etiquette involves doing the little things that show your honor and respect for your female counterpart. Chivalry isn’t dead, although some of the conventional gentlemanly tools are just not as prominent today as they once were (some may see unnecessary male subordination to female desires, while others may see a lack of feminist equality). In either case, proper Player etiquette demands gentlemanly behavior, so find a good balance.

There are many ways a guy can show he’s of good quality. Namely, you are the guiding hand for her to not to worry about life’s little foibles. For example, if you’re driving, open the door for her when she’s getting in or out of the vehicle, let her enter the restaurant first, make sure she gets the better seat at the table, and always take care of the bill at least the first time out. See the pattern? Little displays of respect will prove your good-natured self. Show her that chivalry is alive and well, and proper Player etiquette will follow suit.
Be prompt and reliable
Endemic to your success as a Player is your ability to show up on time. Whether that is by plane, train, automobile, cell phone, text message, pager, or telegraph signal, you can do no better than being a reliable guy that always fulfills on his promise to deliver the goods, which in turn makes for some damn good Player etiquette.

“I’ll call you tomorrow” or “I’ll meet you at the party at eight o’clock” are two promises you’ve just made to a woman that now demand your time and effort. Seems easy to do, right? It should be, but I see far too many guys who make idle promises like these and fail to deliver, leaving nothing but an awkward mess of explanations and excuses that would make a politician proud. Needless to say, walk the walk. If you say you’re going to do it, show some respect and do it without the excuses. Not interested in her? Then do not, under any circumstances, make false promises that leaves the door open. You’re just setting yourself up for disaster. Be prompt and reliable, and you’ll be exhibiting the good Player etiquette that we should all have.
Don’t flash your bling
There is a stark difference between a wealthy man and a self-indulgent one; one spends within reason and the other unreasonably spends. Furthermore, showcasing your goods like being on a Milan catwalk is self-indulgent tripe that only fools can be fooled by, and women are intelligent creatures.

Good etiquette requires a sense of what is reasonable and what is over-the-top, and the latter can turn women off like the flick of a switch. Flagrant displays of wealth can be insulting for her and look cheap on your part. Don’t go all-out and buy everything in the store or restaurant; she’ll see that you’re just trying to buy her affection and won’t fall for it and, if she does, she’s probably warmer to your wallet than she is to you. Keep your spending in check; an effective Player is one who can entertain his date with a classy night out, but also show humility through restraint. Rollback the bling and everybody wins.

Some final points on using Player etiquette to your advantage...

Proper hygeine
Player etiquette isn’t just a psychological game, there’s a physical element to it as well. I know I have waxed poetic about good hygiene in my previous writings, but I can’t stress this oh-so-important factor enough. Your physical presence is the first thing a woman looks at when you approach her, and your personality is a follow-up. Since first impressions are crucial to a Player’s success, maximize your good looks -- dress with a sense of class, maintain a good haircut, trim your facial hair, brush those teeth, etc. (these things should go without saying).

Things getting a little passionate? Before you turn on your primal instincts, make sure you’re fully showered and cleaned, trimmed in the right places and ready to have your skin pressed up against hers (women pay eagle-like attention to a man’s bedroom hygiene). Whatever you do, place a premium on your physical presence; you’ll see that good Player etiquette and a well-kempt man are part and parcel.
Don’t be shocking in bed
So, now you’ve made it all the way to her bedroom, you’re gussied up and the hormones are pulsating at the thought of getting lucky. She’s just as equally aroused as you are, and she’s hoping for a sensual full-body experience. That said, Player etiquette must not be thrown to the wayside the minute the lights dim. A good Player knows the golden rule when scoring: You can’t surprise her with something she doesn’t want to do. There’s nothing that’s more of a buzz kill than trying to do a deed that she’s obviously going to be uncomfortable with; you’ll kill the mood (not to mention the momentum), leaving you wanting and her disgusted. Most women like to be pleasured within their range of comfort, not yours (that means no back door surprises, gentlemen, and other such unwanted, train-wrecking bedroom hijinks).
On a similar note, don’t just be an idle sack of potatoes. Try out some new positions, push the limits a little and communicate to find a good balance. Good Player etiquette gets good Players laid.
Make her orgasm
Let’s be brutally honest here -- Players are expected to perform. You aren’t called a Player because you can play board games with her all night; you’ve got to show her you know your way around the bed and can please her with an exhilarating, mind-blowing experience only with your magic touch. Remember, you’re not there to get your jollies alone; she’s expecting the same thing. Proper etiquette dictates it. Easier said than done, but women lament guys who can’t follow through on their promises, sexually or otherwise. If you just roll over and go to sleep when you’re satisfied, you deserve a swift kick in the nuts -- it’s not very Player-like behavior.
So how do you do it? You’ll have to find a potent mix of chemistry, foreplay and sexual know-how to satisfy her sexually and make her orgasm (and hopefully more than once). Remember when I said you had to be reliable? Well here’s a perfect example: Deliver the goods. Perform. Find her G-spot. There is no half-assing it; your primary focus is to please her and, if done correctly, it will have her swooning for more. I don’t care how difficult this may be -- sexual gratification is proper sex etiquette. Fulfill her bedroom desires and you’ll be a hero in her books.
something to follow-up with
There are just a few of the things a guy can do to better himself, and proper etiquette is not something that is granted overnight; it takes some time and practice to make those practical changes. However, the perpetual mistakes that guys often make can be easily corrected with a few considerations, and once you get them, they’ll stick on you like glue. Routinely address your approach with women and make sure that the little things, such as bad habits, language, conversation topics, and physical presence (and performance) are well taken care off. Pay attention to detail and you’ll find that Player etiquette is alive and well.